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Understanding Why Imposter Syndrome Leaves You Feeling Paralyzed

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Have you ever wondered why you feel stuck or paralyzed while dealing with Imposter Syndrome? If you have been following this page for a while, you probably have seen yourself throughout the posts.

Something that I have seen in the lives of so many of my clients is being paralyzed, which keeps them from achieving their goals and living a life that is flourishing. Heck, I’ve even seen this in myself over decades. I started working with a coach, Shalonda Allison, who helped me realize something. The concept that Coach Shalonda revealed to me was the perfect procrastinator. Let me tell you how it shows up in high achievers, specifically myself.

I have a pattern of starting projects but not executing. Why, you may ask? The answer is simple and plain. Something deep inside of me says, “It’s not ready yet. It needs a few more tweaks.” Or I may tell myself, when it comes to building my social life and circle, “I’m not ready to be in a relationship.” This would lead to discounting the hours of education, training, and life experiences I have from 50 years of living.

The truth is I am, and every project I have started is ready to go, but I believe the voices of Imposter Syndrome over being prepared to launch and go. After becoming aware of my patterns through coaching, I made a commitment to myself that I would not start “nan” other project without executing and finishing the plethora of projects living rent-free in my space. Mind you, I have decades of notes in composition notebooks, outlines and book covers for books, and AI chats of formats for groups and programs that would increase and diversify my income.

I have also committed socially to engage with others in an intentional way. No more sitting on my couch watching Netflix when I have been invited to get out and socialize. I even took this commitment a step further by not waiting on anyone to invite me out to socialize. I will create opportunities to realize my goals.

I share my story in an effort for you to see what imposter syndrome looks like in real time. I am a work in progress, and I will continue to do the work so I can be the best counselor and coach delivering services to you. I pray that this article blesses you and helps you realize you do not have to journey alone on this road of self-discovery and overcoming Imposter Syndrome.

Contact me, Nekeshia c/o Meraki Counseling, today at 832-779-3039 or merakicounseling@outlook.com. A thriving life awaits you.

When Do You Choose to Dim Your Light?

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Did you know that most people choose to dim their lights out of safety and as a survival mechanism? It is, in fact, a coping strategy to not outshine one’s peers. We don’t want to appear as a threat, so we don’t answer even when we know the answer. We decline opportunities that would put us in the spotlight. Certain environments have to be navigated cautiously so as not to allow success to be put under the microscope. Instead, many individuals adopt the art of blending in, mastering the delicate balance of standing out just enough to be recognized but not so much as to invite scrutiny or envy. This behavior often stems from a deep-seated desire to belong and maintain harmony within a group.

However, it’s important to remember that embracing one’s full potential and shining brightly doesn’t necessarily mean overshadowing others. In fact, when we allow ourselves to excel and share our talents, we can inspire and uplift those around us. By fostering an environment of mutual support and celebration of each other’s successes, we create a culture where everyone feels empowered to shine in their unique way.

It becomes crucial to cultivate spaces where authenticity is valued and where individuals feel safe to express their true capabilities without fear of judgment. By doing so, we not only enrich our own lives but also contribute positively to the communities we are part of, encouraging a collective rise towards greater achievements and fulfillment.

Ultimately, by embracing our full potential and supporting others to do the same, we contribute to a world that thrives on collective brilliance. It’s a reminder that, like stars in the night sky, we shine brightest when we illuminate each other.

Call Nekeshia c/o Meraki Counseling today. The world awaits your gifts, talents and your answer to others.