Feeling like an imposter can indeed seep into various facets of life, including your social interactions. Recently, I have experienced the ugly manifestation of imposter syndrome while trying to revamp my social life. For so many years, I have experienced success and wins while raising children, completing college, and starting a career and business through my counseling practice. I have published books and journals, yet I still feel unaccomplished in my personal life.

Recently, after participating in a challenge that one of my dear coaches, Shalonda Allison, started called “Stop Preparing, Start Producing,” I gained some insight about myself. Although I show up confident and competent in some areas, like my career and education, I avoid visibility when it comes to my personal life.

I don’t know how many times I have turned down social engagements due to not feeling equipped or ready to engage with others outside of the work world. Avoiding being seen and feeling like you don’t measure up to others will have you sitting on the couch all weekend when you could be out meeting, networking, and socializing with some good people.

This challenge has motivated me to quit preparing by paying for courses and buying books (mind you, I could start a small bookstore with the number of books I have on interpersonal skills and relationships). The truth is, I don’t need another course, coach, or book to give me permission or the confidence to get out and start living life.

If this post resonates with you in some form or fashion, don’t hesitate to reach out for support. Contact Nekeshia Limuel c/o Meraki Counseling at 832-779-3039 or merakicounseling@outlook.com today.

A confident social life awaits you.