One tell-tale sign of Imposter Syndrome is over-preparation. I remember being a new counselor and spending hours writing intake and progress notes. I laugh about it now because, truthfully, each note didn’t—and still doesn’t—require the level of detail I poured into it. It was like writing a dissertation every time I saw a client. After submitting the note, I’d hold my breath, anticipating “imaginary” feedback I believed would be critical, convinced the note was poorly written.
For those of us who struggle with Imposter Syndrome, good is never good enough. And that’s when the endless revisions begin—driven by the belief that we’ve made countless mistakes. This constant self-questioning and doubt about our work keeps us stuck and paralyzed.
If you can relate to over-preparing—even though you have a history of exemplary work—give me a call today. I want to help you move past the mental blocks that arise when you question the quality of your own work.
The Perfectionist: This type sets incredibly high standards for themselves and views any slight imperfection as a personal failure. They may shy away from new opportunities if there’s a chance of making a mistake or not performing perfectly.
The Superhuman/Superwoman: Believing they are a fraud among truly competent peers, this individual pushes themselves to work harder and harder to prove their worth. This overworking can lead to burnout.
The Expert: This person feels a constant need to know everything about their field. They may delay starting projects, fearing they don’t know enough, and constantly seek more information to validate their position.
The Soloist: Soloists believe they must accomplish tasks entirely on their own to prove their competence. They may avoid asking for help, as doing so would feel like a sign of weakness or incompetence.
The Natural Genius: Individuals in this category equate intelligence and ability with effortlessness. If they have to work hard to achieve something, they see it as a failure or a sign that they are not truly a “genius”.
Which type or types of imposter syndrome resonate with you?
Let’s do some mindset work. My mentor Dr. Dharius Daniels says that in order to change your life you have to go in “head first”. Our mindset may be to wait until a more opportune time like January of the new year. You know you don’t have to wait until the new year to make a change that alters your life exponentially, right? There is no better time than now to begin working on a mindset shift that can kick-start your next level. Let’s find out what limiting beliefs are keeping you stuck and preventing you from claiming all you have been uniquely designed to do. There is a thriving and authentic you on the other side of finding your purpose and identity. You owe it to your higher self to invest in you. You are definitely worth it.
Cultural expectations and familial pressures play a role in exacerbating imposter syndrome or confidence issues for women of color. We often struggle with finding a balance of traditional cultural values with professional aspirations. This leads to feelings of guilt or inadequacy. We find ourselves in this conflict of falling short of what culture says one should be doing and what one wants their life to look like.
I remember quite vividly being in junior high and already knowing what I wanted to do. During a visit at my aunt’s house one weekend, we were talking about my future endeavors. I mentioned I wanted to be a social worker. My uncle laughed and suggested, “social workers don’t make any money…you should go into nursing.” That became a foundational subconscious belief that if I wanted to be financially secure, I needed to go into the nursing or another medical field. Fast forward, while enrolled at a community college, I was on the psychology track but changed my major to nursing. It didn’t take very long for me to get out of the mindset of medical industry being the only certain way to guarantee being successful. Needless to say, I followed my heart and desire, I became a licensed professional counselor with emphasis on helping other’s bring their dreams into fruition.
If you can relate to my story or if anything mentioned in this blog resonates with you, feel free to give me a call. I’m here to assist you in overcoming any internal conflicts, so that you can live your life to the fullest.
Throughout my professional and personal life, I find that women play the comparison game. These women look at others’ achievements and accolades with the perception that their peers are more skilled and equipped to do ” a thing” or bring their dreams to fruition. A term used to describe this is illusory inferiority.
Strategies to overcome feeling inadequate as compared to others:
As a therapist and coach, I give my clients the task of noting all compliments given to them over a period of time, usually a week or two. Whatever the compliment, big or small, they track until we have a session to discuss the list. This strategy is done to get the client to conceptualize their positive aspects.
Another assignment I have clients to complete, identify strengths. Taking the time to reflect on one’s strengths, skills, and accomplishments through listing them down can greatly enhance an individual’s self-esteem and confidence. This simple yet effective exercise allows individuals to acknowledge their strong suits and feel more confident in themselves.
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Women who struggle with Imposter Syndrome often have symptoms or manifestations that indicate their lack of confidence: external locus of control, difficulty in self-recognition, hard to accept praise & accolades, and lastly, a skewed way of looking at other’s achievements.
Attributing Success to Luck or Deception: Individuals experiencing imposter syndrome often struggle to internalize their successes. Instead of attributing their accomplishments to their own skills and efforts, they may dismiss them as luck or believe that they’ve deceived others into thinking they’re competent. This tendency to downplay their achievements can stem from feelings of inadequacy and a fear of being exposed as a fraud.
Difficulty Recognizing Themselves: Women with imposter syndrome may have difficulty recognizing their own abilities and achievements. Despite evidence of their competence and accomplishments, they may perceive themselves as undeserving or unworthy of success. This lack of self-recognition can contribute to feelings of insecurity and self-doubt.
Struggle to Accept Recognition: Individuals with imposter syndrome often find it challenging to accept praise or recognition from others. Even when presented with accolades for their achievements, they may feel uncomfortable or undeserving of the attention. This discomfort may arise from a fear of being “found out” as an imposter or a belief that they don’t truly deserve recognition for their work.
Thwarted Perception of Others’ Accomplishments: Imposter syndrome can distort individuals’ perceptions of others’ accomplishments. Women who struggle with imposter syndrome may perceive their peers as more competent or successful, even when evidence suggests otherwise. This skewed perception can exacerbate feelings of inadequacy and reinforce the belief that they don’t measure up to others in their field or profession.
Addressing imposter syndrome often involves challenging negative beliefs and learning to internalize achievements and recognition. Encourage yourself to recognize your worth, celebrate successes, and support other women of color in overcoming imposter syndrome can help foster greater confidence and self-assurance.
My passion lies in empowering women of color to achieve their dreams and live fulfilling lives. To achieve this, I provide a welcoming and secure space for counseling and coaching. Through my coaching, I aim to motivate my clients to take small but consistent steps towards achieving their goals, enabling them to live a life of excellence and prosperity. I believe that everyone has the potential to live their best life, and I am dedicated to helping my clients unlock their true potential and achieve their dreams.
The Impostor Syndrome is a prevalent issue among high-achieving women, where we feel like frauds despite evidence of our competence. Us women attribute our successes to luck rather than skill, which reinforces self-doubt and undermines confidence in our abilities. By acknowledging these patterns and reframing negative thoughts, us ladies can work towards overcoming this phenomenon and embracing our true potential.
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