Courage grows through action, not by waiting until you feel ready. Here are three actions or behaviors that can help build your confidence.

Recognize your wins.
In order to see your wins, you have to shift your mindset. One of the mind’s tricks is convincing you that small feats don’t mean anything. It can feel as though you have to graduate from college with dual majors, work multiple jobs, take your kids to cheer and soccer, and be a good wife just to consider something a win. That’s simply not true. A win could be finally having a courageous conversation with someone. It might be setting your alarm earlier than usual so you can pray before the rest of your household wakes up. A win doesn’t have to be grandiose for it to count. During the coaching calls I attend, we start each session by sharing our wins.

Review your résumé.
Figuratively speaking, it’s important to look at your track record. While you can count your job history, I’m thinking more about your personal history. Perhaps you’ve been a supportive daughter or a loving mother. Maybe you’re the friend everyone confides in because they trust you to keep their confidence. Or perhaps you set a goal to lose 10 pounds and have continued to work out consistently. All of these are meaningful accomplishments.

Realign with your values.
When a person is out of alignment with their values, it’s difficult to feel confident. If you say you value family but rarely spend time with them during the week—whether in person or virtually—it can create a sense of disconnection. Living in alignment with your values strengthens self-esteem. I’ve learned to build my schedule—my ideal week—in ways that reflect what truly matters to me.

Now take some time to process what you’ve read. If you’re struggling to build your confidence, you don’t have to do it alone. Contact Nekeshia at Meraki Counseling today. Let’s work together to overcome imposter syndrome and strengthen your confidence.