Soloists believe they must handle tasks independently to prove competence, often avoiding help due to perceived weakness.

Tell-Tale Signs Someone May Be a “Soloist” Imposter:

• Refusing help even when offered
• Difficulty delegating tasks
• Preference for solitary work, causing anxiety in collaborative settings
• Feeling incompetent when needing assistance
• Overworking, leading to burnout
• Avoiding mentorship to prevent being “found out”
• Inability to accept credit for collaborative achievements
• Emotional and social isolation from working alone

This mindset reminds me of a term that I learned while doing work on myself: hyper-independence. I have experienced this on a familial level. An underlying message is, “Don’t ask nobody for nothing!” I know that is not proper English, but you get the gist. I have gone through life by doing “everything” by myself when I didn’t have to. In the last few years, I learned from my coach/mentor Dr. Darius Daniels, “You can’t be your best self by yourself.” You need a team. You need community. Without the aforementioned, you will not reach your full potential.

Reach out today to begin your journey to counter being a soloist. Nekeshia c/o Meraki Counseling at 832-779-3039