With Imposter Syndrome the dialogue that one has with themselves is rooted in perfectionism. The inner talk is coated in unrealistic expectations of oneself. Let’s be real, what we tell ourselves comes from a bar that is impossible to reach: “It must be flawless.”

The problem with this line of thinking is that it keeps us stuck. If “I must have every detail figured out” before beginning a project or task, then I will hold off on getting started. Or if the line of thinking is “I’m not fully prepared”, then that will definitely put a hold on initiating one’s quest.

I recall when I tested for my counseling license thinking I wasn’t prepared. I studied and studied some more. The anxiety I felt when scheduling the exam was intense, let alone when I actually took the test. After completing the exam I immediately got my results printed on a sheet of paper. I recall not opening the folded sheet for minutes because I just knew I didn’t pass. When I mustered up the nerve to look at the results I had a big surprise. I exceeded the score needed to become a licensed counselor. I left out a small detail. I graduated from grad school in 2011 and studied up until 2015 when I took the test.

I share my story in order to let you know you are not alone. If you are or have experienced self-talk that impedes your progress, then give me a call. Don’t let imposter syndrome keep you from (taking an exam) living a fulfilling and flourishing life.

Nekeshia Limuel c/o Meraki Counseling at 832-779-3039.