Throughout my professional and personal life, I find that women play the comparison game. These women look at others’ achievements and accolades with the perception that their peers are more skilled and equipped to do ” a thing” or bring their dreams to fruition. A term used to describe this is illusory inferiority.

Strategies to overcome feeling inadequate as compared to others:

As a therapist and coach, I give my clients the task of noting all compliments given to them over a period of time, usually a week or two. Whatever the compliment, big or small, they track until we have a session to discuss the list. This strategy is done to get the client to conceptualize their positive aspects.

Another assignment I have clients to complete, identify strengths. Taking the time to reflect on one’s strengths, skills, and accomplishments through listing them down can greatly enhance an individual’s self-esteem and confidence. This simple yet effective exercise allows individuals to acknowledge their strong suits and feel more confident in themselves.

Tired of comparing yourself unfavorably to others? Let me help you find your unique path to a meaningful and satisfying existence.